Something I just have to say…

Warning:  I share strong feeling on this one! 
It is not intended to offend anyone, 
and it is just my opinion!
I just want to say something.  My heart aches this morning.  A couple days ago an acquaintances daughter who was 16 years old took her own life.  I don’t know all the details or circumstances leading up to why she felt as if that was her only way to escape pain in her life, but I do know how much pain it’s causing her family and friends. My heart goes out to them.  Shayna was a beautiful girl!
 Then I see on the Today Show this morning that a 10 year old child also took her life.  10 years old!!!  Are you kidding me?  This disturbs me in so many ways, but the fact that our children…CHILDREN people are feeling so much pain, hurt, or rejection that they feel the only way to remedy it is to take their own life is disgusting me.  It’s disgusting to me because it’s becoming so much more frequent it seems.  I can’t even begin to imagine what the loss of a child feels like nor do I EVER want to know that feeling.  I can’t imagine the pain these parents, families, and friends are experiencing.  My heart aches for them in their loss of beautiful children. 
Why is this something we should even have to discuss with our kids at this age, or at all?  This is heartbreaking that our children don’t feel loved, appreciated, accepted, or are dealing with such a great pain.  That they feel alone and that there hearts are hurting so badly.  Why are bullies allowed to bully since that seems to be the majority of where teen suicides are resulting from.  Why are the parents of these so called bullies not stepping up to the job and being parents to discipline these children?!  (the 16 girl wasn’t bullied, but the 10 year old was)  God placed these beautiful children in our lives, he trusted us when he gave them to us to raise them with loving hearts, encouraging mouths, and helping hands.  Why are parents forgetting that, or do they not know that it’s not okay to let your child get away with being a bully?  Do they not care?  I would NEVER condone that behavior if it was my child!  In this house we teach that we are to be accepting of everyone no matter what!  That everyone has a gift or something special to bring to our lives.  That it’s never okay to hurt someone or be unkind.  We teach that loving and helping others is a gift from God, and that he is pleased with that behavior. 
I don’t want to have to sit down with my 8 year old and talk about depression and what suicide is.  I shouldn’t have to.  I am not naive either and know that things happen and situations arise, and I need to be sure the lines of communication are clear and trustworthy in this house.  This is just not how it should be at all.  Our children our precious, and we should feel privileged to have them and not take them for granted.  I am thankful for my boys and all they have brought to my life thus far, and for all they will give to my life from this point forward.  I just pray, I pray for my children and for everyones children that God will keep them under his protection that he will grow them into strong men and women who change the world with their love, intellect, and passions.  I pray for these families who have lost their babies…that God will comfort them, heal them, and hold these sweet children and families in his arms.  I believe that God welcomed home some precious children this week, but I know his heart broke for them on their journey home.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
To every thing there is a season, a time to every purpose under the heaven: 
A time to be born, a time to die, a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal, a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh, a time to mourn, and a time to dance.


  1. says

    This too breaks my heart. We recently had a student at my brother’s school take his own life. I can not comprehend how parents do not step up and discipline their children. You are right; it is disgusting.

  2. says

    This is a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing what so many people probably feel and think.
    It is an ugly thing to see such young kids take their life when it can so often be avoided. I wish as you do too that parents would step up and take responsibility more often.

    God Bless.
    -Meesh :)

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